Thursday, December 31, 2020
Sick
Tuesday, December 22, 2020
I miss...I dislike...I am thankful...and I learned
- running races with crowd support
- festivals and concerts
- church services with more families present
- teaching preschool in my own classroom
- kids sport games
- travel
- school events
- large group gatherings with friends
- seeing extended family
- large community events
- going to restaurants and coffee shops and being able to sit inside.
- the nagging feeling of "when will this ever end?"
- watching the news
- the "mask" debates and other heated discussions related to COVID 19
- disappointment over and over again about all the things being postponed or cancelled
- virtual meetings
- seeing people mentally drained and depressed due to this pandemic
- seeing children being out of "in person school" this long
- how devastating this disease has been for some people...it hits you personally when you know someone who died from COVID-19.
- how there is a lot we still don't know about this virus.
- for a more flexible schedule that has allowed me to work a mix of home, office, and classroom
- being able to exercise in the afternoons and not have to rely on the crack of dawn (it's going to be hard if and when I have to go back to that!)
- we can go hike, bike, go to the coast, run, and do many outdoor activities
- we still have our jobs
- that our family is pretty close-knit and cares for one another
- for extra time for hobbies
- for our little friend community here
- a chance to slow down...even though sometimes it feels like a little too much.
- encouragement notes, texts, and emails received
- a large middle middle school youth group with thoughtful and joyful kids
- a chance to try new things like singing on praise team and editing videos for teachers
- there is a vaccine now
- to be more "go with the flow" and not have everything planned out...I honestly don't think I worry about "time" and deadlines nearly as much as I used to.
- the importance of practicing self care
- to show more empathy to others
- to slow down
- to have a humble heart and listen to people
- the importance of calming down before helping others calm down
- to take joy in the little things
- I am sure there will be more things that will be revealed with time...sometimes we don't see what we learned until after its over
Monday, December 21, 2020
The Day The World Changed
I don’t think I will ever forget the morning of Thursday, March 12th, 2020. It began as a chaotic week and came to a screeching halt. I woke up that morning tired from the events of the week and longing for the weekend. Rob was in the kitchen and had that familiar look of concern in his eyes when something intense is about to happen.
He said, “I think we need to come to the reality that our daughter's mission trip to Mexico is going to be cancelled.” My heart sank and my first reaction was denial. I said to him “I cannot deal with this right now.” Rob went on to say that schools were probably going to shut down and I would resort to working from home. I know he was thinking about what this would look like for our church. I could not wrap my mind around it. I had not paid much attention to the news that week as I had been very busy at work. I was unaware of the severity of this virus.
That is why it felt like a doomsday. We started the day at work taking kid’s temperatures when they came into school. They had to wash their hands immediately. We had never done this before. Several children and staff were out sick. We might have been dealing with COVID-19 in our own workplace.
We were all checking our phone and emails throughout the day. We began to witness cancellations, closures, and warnings about how bad this was going to get. In our minds, we thought this would be a couple weeks or maybe a month interruption. We had no idea the prolonged months of this pandemic and the impact it would have on us.
Our daughter's trip was cancelled. This was the event from that day that broke my heart the most. Now nine months later, I still feel pain in the pit of my stomach and get choked up when I think about this loss. When I got home from work, I saw my three children sitting together on the couch. We had a simple Mc Donalds dinner because nobody felt like cooking. We were trying to process what had happened and how our lives were going to change. There was much at that point we did not know.
For myself, as for many the cancellations have been the most heart breaking. Our daughter's mission trip. My other daughter's literature competition and soccer season. We were grateful this fall she was able to take a theatre class that was supposed to have a video presentation. It felt normal again bringing her theatre class and seeing her face light up with this new opportunity. Then, that too got cancelled right before Thanksgiving with the new "pause" in place that cancelled gatherings. My son had hoped to run track and play basketball. It was difficult during the quarantine for him not to see his friends. Rob travels internationally at least twice a year training indigenous pastors. He had to cancel all his trips. There is uncertainty about when he will be able to go back to the Philippines or Ukraine and continue the work he was a part of previously.
Secondly it has been navigating through new territory that has been trying...and frustrating at times. Leading a church through a pandemic is new territory. Many decisions have to be made almost weekly. There are always people on both sides of the decision and it is impossible to please everyone. There is always someone disappointed. Due to a wide spectrum of comfort levels, people needing to quarantine or worse dealing with COVID-19 themselves, the regular volunteer pool has shrunk. Some people including myself are doing double sometimes triple duty Sunday mornings.
Lastly I think there is unresolved grief at least for myself. Last year was my first year of teaching preschool and I feel like I never got to say good-bye to my preschoolers. We had a Zoom party and I was able to say good-bye to some in person. The school year felt unfinished. Every time I substitute teach in my former classroom, a part of me grieves. It is getting easier and it helps that the current teachers are wonderful. I am in a float position this year that did not even exist prior to COVID-19. It allows less people in the classroom and creates small stable groups. Somedays I feel like I went backwards to my previous assistant role.
Routines, traditions, and holidays had to change and be downsized significantly. Easter Sunday was one of my darkest days during this pandemic and I felt in a state of grief the whole day. Normally this is a day of rejoicing, but I could not get there. Fourth of July felt almost normal despite no downtown fireworks and the parade. Halloween was actually enjoyable even with the trick or treating brief and short. The holidays already have a different feel to it, but in many ways we have gotten used to changes.
One of the catch phrases at the beginning of this pandemic is “We’re all in this together.” Maybe it felt like this at the initial start of the pandemic. The funny COVID memes, the toilet paper jokes, and the mutual encouragement was welcomed. The further we move into this world changing event, many of us feel division. Divisiveness about wearing a mask or not wearing one. Reopening or remaining closed. In person or virtual school. The election made it worse. Racial tensions in many areas of the country did not help. The suicide rate is up and I worry often about people's mental states. There are many people who don't feel a togetherness, but feel more lonely than ever.
I continue to pray for an end to this pandemic and I will continue to do so. I am hopeful God hears our prayers and will deliver us from it in his time.
For what is worth this is my own piece of advice...
Don't be afraid to call or text someone God puts on your heart. If that person is on your mind, God might have a reason for that. Check in on him or her. Don't be afraid to express your feelings whatever they are to someone you can trust. We were never meant to carry all this alone. God made us for relationships.
If you are walking in a dark place, please seek help. Tomorrow is a new day. I cannot promise it is going to be any better than today. I do know God's mercies are new every single morning. When you feel like you do not have the willpower to walk through another day of this (and I've been there), know that God goes before you. His strength will fill you. When we are weak, He is strong.
Saturday, November 14, 2020
The gyms might be closing...but I'm still running
Sometimes I sit and stare at this computer screen and I am completely overwhelmed. My heart is full of a whole range of feelings. That is what this fall brought upon us. My children are blessed to be able to go to in person school which is not the norm in our corner of the country. Most students are in virtual school. The oldest is in high school two hours a day. There are no sports or extracurricular activities right now and barely any school events. It is the bare bones of school instruction with masks and face shields, social distancing and lots of sanitizing. Don't get me wrong--I am thankful. When school started in September, I would take whatever they offered. But I am not going to pretend I am not grieving the extras.
I am grateful I have a full time job. It is not anything like being a teacher last year in my own classroom. So much has changed that I feel like I am navigating through new territory and figuring out a new normal every single day. I am also grieving what I once had and may not have for awhile.
I never would have dreamed the challenges of leading a church during a pandemic and watching my husband navigate through each one. At the end of the summer my daughter said she was sick of hearing the phrase, "We're all in this together" because she witnessed one too many divisions. That has crept into the church as well.
Sometimes we are functioning with a skeleton crew and it reminds me of the days of the mid 2000s when we moved here and there were many volunteer needs. I am wearing the hats of middle school youth group leader, nursery team member, and singing on the praise team (which I have not done since 2004). Yet I think God fills us with strength when we need it and calls us to opportunities in the short term or long term. When I see the sixteen energetic and eager middle schoolers file into the fellowship hall, I remember that calling. These are the times I don't feel weighed down by COVID 19.
One thing I keep doing through all this is I run. In the last eight months I have run through anger, pain, frustration, and yet joy too. I have cried while I am running. I have given thanks to God. I have expressed my anger. Some of my runs are a way for me to work out my feelings.
I am grateful I can run. Because sometimes I do not know what else to do. Something so simple as putting one foot in front of the other, basking in God's creation, and hoping for an end to this draining pandemic is what I can do. I will keep doing it. Even though my gym is probably going to close yet again...and more things sadly seem to be shutting down around me...I will still run.
Tuesday, September 22, 2020
Running Update: 145 Mile Challenge
I am still planning on doing a total of ten races in 2020 for 10 10 Ministries. I have learned to appreciate and even be motivated by virtual races. The last race I completed was the PDX Sprint 145 Mile Challenge. I had thirty days to complete it and I did it in 26 days. They encouraged competitors to incorporate all three triathlon activities (swim, bike, and run). I also included some hiking and walking.
The highlight of this race was hiking and walking in Arizona especially in Prescott where 10 10 Ministries is located. I had the honor of spending part of Labor Day weekend at one of 10 10 Ministries' retreat suites. The rest, relaxation, visiting with Joey and Robyn, and basking in the beautiful southwest was what I needed. I had no idea that a little over twenty-four hours after I came home, my beautiful state of Oregon would get ravaged by wildfires. This is why last few workouts were indoors except for one walk in the smoke wearing a mask. I felt like my neighborhood was ghost town.
Below are all the workouts I completed. I kept track of them mostly for the sake of entering them correctly on the Why Racing website. I did 3 miles of swimming, 84.71 miles of biking, 41.97 miles of running, 9.4 miles of hiking, and 6 miles of walking.Tuesday, August 18: Day 1
0.5 miles swimming at the Battlecreek Courthouse
1.5 miles biking back and forth from Salem, Swim & Tennis Club
Total = 2 miles (143 to go!)
Wednesday, August 19: Day 2
27 miles biking with Salem Bicycle Club
Total = 29 miles (116 miles to go!)
Thursday, August 20: Day 3
4 miles run outside in the neighborhood
Total = 34 miles (112 miles to go!)
Friday, August 21: Day 4
5.4 mile hike in the Mc Donald Dunn Research Forest
1.6 mile bike ride to and from the pool
Total = 41 miles (104 miles to go!)
Saturday, August 22: Day 5
6 miles ran in the neighborhood
Total = 47 miles (98 miles to go!)
Sunday, August 23: Day 6
3 mile intervals at Wendy Kroger Park
Total = 50 miles (95 miles to go!)
Monday, August 24: Day 7
Rest! (Still 95 miles to go)
Tuesday, August 25: Day 8
Ran 4 miles in the neighborhood before work (it was hard to get up!)
Total = 54 miles (91 miles to go)
Wednesday, August 26: Day 9
Biked 20 miles with Salem Bicycle Club
Total = 74 miles (71 miles to go) - Over halfway!
Thursday, August 27: Day 10
Ran 9 miles in the neighborhood (planned on doing 8 but it turned into 9!)
Total = 83 miles (62 miles to go)
Friday, August 28: Day 11
Biked 4.11 miles to and from the Crossler Track. Ran 3.47 miles doing sprints/intervals around the track
Total = 90.5 miles (54.5 miles to go!)
Saturday, August 29: Day 12
Swam 1 mile at the Battlecreek Courthouse (it was tough--felt slow!! Also did weights)
Total = 91.5 miles (53.5 miles to go)
Sunday, August 30: Day 13
Ran 2.5 miles at Bush Park with friends. Heather's first run!!
Total = 93 miles (52 miles to go!)
Monday, August 31: Day 14
Rest
Tuesday, September 1: Day 15
Rest
Wednesday, September 2: Day 16
Biked 20 miles
Total = 113 miles (32 miles to go!)
Thursday, September 3: Day 17
Ran 10 miles (about 2 miles with Heather...starting to get hot...really struggled on the Mildred hills)
Total = 123 miles (22 miles to go!)
Friday, September 4: Day 18
Travel day to Prescott. Was hoping to get a hike or walk in but too much traffic in Phoenix.
Saturday, September 5: Day 19
Hike = 4 miles
Hiked in Sedona. I climbed up near the base of Cathedral Rock and walked along a the Easy Breezy trail. Also walked up to the Chapel of the Holy Cross.
Total = 127 miles (only 18 miles to go!)
Sunday, September 6: Day 20
Walk = 4 miles through Prescott Lakes neighborhood
Total = 131 miles (14 miles to go)
Monday, September 7: Day 21
Rest
I have to get 14 miles completed this week. Should be doable but the air quality is terrible right now due to fires.
Tuesday, September 8: Day 22
Swim = 1/2 mile
Total = 131.5 miles (13.5 more miles to go)
Wednesday, September 9: Day 23
Rest...a lot shut down due to the fires
Thursday, September 10: Day 24
Bike (stationary bike at the gym--air quality still bad) = 10.5 miles
Total = 142 miles (only 3 miles to go!)
Friday, September 11: Day 25
Walk two miles in the smoke with a mask on
Total = 144 miles...only one more mile!
Saturday, September 12: Day 26
Swim one mile!
Total = 145 miles. Complete!
Monday, September 14, 2020
All that I could want but nothing that I need...
Thursday, September 3, 2020
From Summer to Fall
We are nearing of what has felt like one of the longest summers that I can remember. Even though COVID 19 changed the summer we were dreaming of back in January, we made the most of it. We managed to create some special memories.
We did many outdoor activities including exploring local places. I do not think we would have taken the time to do this had we been traveling extensively. We spent many...in fact most...afternoons at the pool as a family. It always allows us to bask in the sun, open up a good book, cool off, and play water games. This summer in particular, it allowed us to do something normal and forget about COVID 19. I am grateful our local pool was able to open in mid June.
Now on to fall where "back to school" is very different. We are extremely grateful our children's school is offering in person schooling even if it is limited. The oldest will be going to school two hours a day but all her course work will be in person. There are no electives yet and very few sports or activities. But we will take what we can get. The younger two will be in regular in person school with some COVID 19 regulations in place. I am teaching preschool but am a float teacher. I will be circulating between four different classrooms. If it were not for COVID, I would have my own classroom. I see how everything is part of His plan for the fall...and maybe into the winter and spring. Rob is still of course dealing with opening up our church one program at a time while keeping people healthy and safe.
I failed after the ninth week of summer to take a photo for each day as my daughter had challenged me in June. I did take quite a few photos and I am posting them in order by date with a few stories behind the pictures...
Thursday, August 13: When Rob and I were doing the Oregon Coast challenge I did a few rides on the stationary bike. I tried to take a picture of my mileage so I would remember. Guess it helps to take the picture before the numbers change. |
Friday, August 14: Derek unsuccessfully trying to get Rob out of his lawn chair at the pool |
Monday, August 17: We took one of the little girls Hailey nannies to downtown and spent some time playing near the Willamette River.
Thursday, August 20: One of my favorite days of the summer! Playing in Butte Creek in Scotts Mills. Jumping and climbing off rocks. It was such a refreshing afternoon.
Friday, August 21: Rob and I did an intense hike in Corvallis. We had no idea a lot of it would be uphill. I was not even wearing hiking or running shoes. It was still nice to get away. |
Saturday, August 22: Celebrating Rob's birthday at the Yard. Even though I did not take a picture of Rob. Sad. Will need to go back and try the waffle truck Derek and Kara went to.
Monday, August 24: Beautiful red tomatoes from the garden that Hailey took care of while the owners were on vacation.
Thursday, August 27: Loved this "cookie dessert flight" Rob and I ordered at one of our favorite restaurants in downtown Salem. |
Tuesday, September 1: Beautiful day with friends at Neskowin. Started the summer here and ended it here. |
Saturday, August 22, 2020
We are the COVID 19 teachers
How are we going to virtually teach this fall? COVID 19 pulled the rug out from our classroom routines and activities.
The "I can't do this" thoughts are a burden I sometimes carry in tough situations. It is often other people such as co-workers, friends, and my husband who have more faith in me than I do in myself. In two different instances last year, my supervisor and my husband both told me I am not allowed to say, "I'm done. I can't do this."
Last year as the summer was concluding, I was preparing to be a preschool teacher. I had the honor and pleasure of being an assistant for two school years to three amazing teachers. They encouraged me to apply for a teacher position which I was offered that summer. I had many fears of being the "teacher in charge." Everything from challenging behaviors to working with difficult staff to doing assessments.
The first day my preschoolers arrived I was excited yet extremely nervous. I had several assistants and teachers including my supervisor helping corral children and teaching them the routine. It felt like herding cats and honestly it was pure chaos. We even had an escapee child who exited out the classroom door towards the parking lot. Part of me looked at the day and said: "It can only get better from here. I can make this work." Another part of me felt defeated and said, "I can't do this."
Slowly over the next few months teaching preschool became manageable. Not only manageable it became rewarding. Then it became fun. It reminded me of the early days when I did youth ministry. I loved my job to the point I said, "Wow, it is so great I get paid to this!" My class went from chaotic, anxiety ridden, and unpredictable to an organized chaos of happy and excited children. There were plenty of challenging days and stressful situations. I did have a few, "I'm done. I can't do this" moments. In the end, I was carrying more joy than sorrow.
When COVID 19 hit in March and shut down our school, it felt sudden and without warning. We had to think outside of the box and figure out our new role as remote teachers. It was never a position that existed in our agency. We were not even working from home prior to COVID. We tried things that worked and others things that did not work at all. Only seeing preschoolers via Zoom or looking out their front windows was hard. Having our end of the year party virtually was the best we were able to do. I never felt like I properly got to say good-bye. I still feel an emptiness because of that.
I think we all assumed COVID 19 would disappear and the new school year would begin in a somewhat normal fashion. Everything is different. Sanitizer, temperature checks, masks, separate baskets for each child, reduced class sizes, closed learning areas, less people allowed in the classroom, no circle time are some of the things that changed. Not to mention some of us teachers don't even has a classroom. We are virtual teachers and we are treading on new territory. Whether we will remain this way until November or January or June or even longer is not determined. Part of me is saying, "This is terrible. This is not going to work" and the other part of me is saying "This is an adventure. I really can do this."
We spent a lot of time creating activities to go in learning packets we delivered to their door |
When we were hired as teachers we were given a job description. Obviously virtual teaching, running a classroom during a pandemic and setting up zoom calls were not listed on that description. Among other things.
It is pretty easy to say, "This is not what I signed up for." But no one signed up for it..
But what if we saw it as charting through new territory? Exploring a new way of teaching and perhaps a new way of learning? Making history as teachers who sought new ways to reach students during a somber time in our country? We are the COVID 19 teachers. And my friends, we can make this work.
Tuesday, August 18, 2020
Running Update: Finishing the Oregon Coast and tackling PDX Sprint
Rob and I completed the Virtual Oregon Coast challenge on Friday. As a team we logged 350 miles in the duathon (run/walk/bike) category. I went 218.68 miles and Rob went 134.11. Most of Rob's workouts were riding the stationary bike at his gym (yes, we have separate gym memberships) and he did some walks around Salem on the weekends. He did one bike ride with me the week he ended up in the hospital with diverticulitis. The two did not have anything to do with one another. However, it is impressive he biked fifteen miles when he was already showing symptoms.
My online certificate from the Oregon Coast challenge |
My workouts included four rides with Salem Bicycle Club, one ride with Rob, one ride with my sister while I was in Michigan, and two rides on the stationary bike at my gym. It also included a hike up Black Butte, a hike to all ten waterfalls at Silver Falls State Park, a walk with a friend in my neighborhood and lots of running workouts. COVID 19 affected many of our summer plans, but it has been good for all of us to look back on all the opportunities we did have.
Hike Up Black Butte |
What is next? Originally I hoped to do an Olympic distance triathlon in 2020. I have not done anything longer than a sprint tri. That is typically a 1/4 mile swim, 12-15 mile bike ride, and 3.1 mile run. An Olympic distance is double that. Why Racing, another race company in our area, is putting on the PDX 145 mile challenge. Portland, Oregon is 145 square miles. The challenge is to run, bike and/or swim 145 miles and it must be completed in 30 days.
This challenge is an incentive for me to keep cycling and also get back in the water and swim. I have done only three swim workouts all summer. I have the running down already.
Some people have been very motivated to workout during this pandemic and some have not. I have seen the question: "How do I get motivated?" on several message boards and among people I have talked to. There is no quick fix answer. For me personally, running is something I do and has been a part of my life for twenty years. I gain much from it and that alone motivates me. I know that is not true for everyone.
What I can say is that people need to be realistic what they can do and not set their goals too high. If you have never run before or been stagnant for a long time, start with a run/walk rhythm or even simply walking at a brisk pace. My first workouts were ten to fifteen minutes and I ran/walked to a gas station at the end of my street.
Find a time that works for you. Some of us need to work out in the mornings because we lose motivation as the day goes on. However, in the winter months I love running in the afternoons. Take advantage of it still being light in the evenings. When I trained for marathons when my children were little, I would put them to bed and go running when Rob was home. Sunset runs can be very picturesque.
It has helped Rob to have his gym close to our house. It is a very short walk up our street. He thinks if he had to get in the car and drive somewhere, he would be less motivated. This has allowed him to work out in the mornings and not have to get up before 6 AM or work out over his lunch without extending his lunch break.
For myself it has helped to have some "social workouts" mixed in with solo workouts. I have biked mostly with other people this summer. I sometimes run with a friend though I really enjoy running alone. Before COVID I was swimming with a group of people which is probably why I have not been as motivated to swim. I have had to put myself out there a bit and join groups or ask people to run with me. When you meet people who enjoy what you do, you have this natural connection. Some fellow cyclists, runners, and triathletes I met over the years are some of the nicest and most hospitable people I have met. I have learned a lot from them.
Tuesday, August 11, 2020
Weeks 7, 8 & 9
Monday, August 3, 2020
Running Update: Rob and I are virtually racing along the Oregon Coast
Derek, myself, and my sister took a bike ride in Michigan. |
Emily and I ran a 10K at Minto Brown Park |